So I'm at this bar with some new friends last night, having a few drinks and listening to some live blues band, when one of us asks everyone at the table if they've ever been married. My answer was that no, I've never been married, and the older I get - and at the failure rate of my relationships - the more I become resigned to the fact that I probably won't, and even if I did, I'd be afraid of the deep emotional fuckover it would be if the marriage failed.
So I guess the jury's out on whether or not I'd ever want to. At least, nobody has inspired me to want to. Yet.
So this morning, I'm reading yesterday's Morford op-ed piece about Spain, the latest enlightened country to make gay marriage legal, and he had a link to this other SF Chronicle columnist, Steven Winn, who said the following (emphasis mine):
One in two marriages, according to steel-plated conventional wisdom, ends in divorce. Recent numbers from the National Center for Health Statistics suggest the risk is even greater in red states, where the divorce rate is 29 percent higher than it is in blue states.
Oh, that sound? Don't worry. That's just my cognitive dissonance alarm going off again.
So let me get this straight: These people - these morally sound, Bible-lovin', no alcohol in the house havin', gay/black/latino/non-white hatin', George Dubya followin' , Defense of Marriage Act believin' people - get divorces at a much higher rate than people who live in blue states.
I see it now. I understand. The institute of marriage does need protecting - from them.